In any good relationship, it is important to fight “well!”  WHAT, you say?  Yes, great love stories always involve conflict.  So if you want to keep growing and knowing well your boyfriend-husband, you need to be able to communicate the hard things without destroying the love and trust you have built.  As the great columnist Ann Landers once said, “All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love.  Good battle is objective and honest— never vicious or cruel.  Good  battle is healthy and constructive and brings to a marriage the principle of EQUAL PARTNERSHIP.”  The key to fighting well is to understand that you and your man ARE ON THE SAME TEAM!!!  Know that as you disagree on topics, both big and small; your mate is NOT your Adversary…your mate is your ADVOCATE, as you are his! This is a huge part of getting through a conflict and being capable of ending up on solid ground…TOGETHER.  In marriage, it’s not about WHO will win the argument. It’s about sharing and talking out each person’s opinion and feelings until an agreement is reached or a conclusion is respected.  Yes, you and your guy can AGREE TO DISAGREE!  That’s totally okay.  It’s more interesting anyway.  As long as you both decide that in any conflict…we either BOTH lose or we BOTH WIN!! Love matters most.