“Love that has been tested through various hindrances and obstacles is pure and of the Divine level.” Anonymous
“The best relationship is when you can act like lovers and best friends at the same time…and remember, “Love is friendship that has caught fire.” –Anonymous
You know by now as the insightful Girlfriend-Wife that no relationship worth anything is easy. A good relationship takes time, effort, vision and hard work; resembling the process of the emergence of a diamond. As someone once said, “A diamond is a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well.” It is well known that diamonds are formed at high temperature and pressure below the earth’s surface over much time. Sometimes we all feel that way about trying to “do life well” with our Boyfriend-Husband. Yet good things take time. There can be chapters of great pressure and growth in any worthwhile commitment.
As Eric Thomas says,
“The next time you feel uncomfortable with the pressure in your life, remember No Pressure No Diamonds. Pressure is a part of success.”
A diamond of a relationship is an unseen beauty that will eventually dazzle the eyes and impress the world. That’s worth going after. So the next time you feel that life with your man is just too hard, remember the diamond is worth mining and worth working for.
As John Harrigan tell us,
“People need loving the most when they deserve it the least.”
Diamonds are always worth the wait!
Falling in love with your Boyfriend-husband is like finding the Other Half to your heart. Being the Other Half is the definition of “Mate.” You truly become your man’s #1 Companion, and Helpmate. It’s like being on a ship and being the First Mate to the Captain. What does a First Mate do, you ask? Wikipedia defines the duties of a First Mate as one who is “invaluable to the Captain and to the successful running of the ship. The First Mate communicates effectively to the rest of the crew (family) is an arbitrator in disputes, maintains discipline, makes sure everyone pulls their own weight, keeps the ship (home) running smoothly, is always available to help, and creates a positive attitude with all involved.” Remember, without a good First Mate, the Captain would be lost and the ship would go down!! As Franklin P. Jones so effectively put it,
“LOVE doesn’t make the world go around,
LOVE is what makes the ride worthwhile.”
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Being an amazing Girlfriend-Wife doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. It’s okay to fail. It’s okay to be human. The actress Lake Bell says, “to be imperfect is to be honorable.” To be human is to give your very presence here on this earth…authenticity. I’ll tell you right now, my Boyfriend-Husband doesn’t love me because he thinks I’m perfect. The other night it was my turn to make dinner after work. We had a lot of interruptions going on with our garage door repairman coming in and out. Bottom line; I burned the chicken. My guy came up to me after dinner and told me quite honestly, “Babe, I loved the asparagus and the salad. But your chicken was literally inedible.” To this remark, I simply burst out laughing! He was just trying to be honest. If I had been a new bride, I might have been devastated. However, I’m secure in who I am & I already know I am loved. My value has nothing to do with CHICKEN!! I just thought how funny it all was and it didn’t upset me in the least. It’s just LIFE!! We just try again and love each other for WHO we are, NOT for what we DO. There’s great freedom in that. As someone once said, “Failure isn’t something not working out… We only fail if we let fear rule us… If we let ourselves go unknown…unloved.”